Sunday, November 01, 2026

SERMON: MORE RIGHTEOUS THAN I

 


Naylor Community Christian Church

Naylor, Georgia

 

I.  Introduction

            -- turn in Bibles to Genesis 38:1-11

 

Genesis 38:1 At that time, Judah left his brothers and went down to stay with a man of Adullam named Hirah. 2 There Judah met the daughter of a Canaanite man named Shua. He married her and made love to her; 3 she became pregnant and gave birth to a son, who was named Er. 4 She conceived again and gave birth to a son and named him Onan. 5 She gave birth to still another son and named him Shelah. It was at Kezib that she gave birth to him.

 

6 Judah got a wife for Er, his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. 7 But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death.

 

8 Then Judah said to Onan, “Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother. 10 What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death also.

 

11 Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Live as a widow in your father’s household until my son Shelah grows up.” For he thought, “He may die too, just like his brothers.” So Tamar went to live in her father’s household.

 

            -- I want to open this morning by sharing with you a story I once heard from a chaplain about the time he overheard his son playing with friends in the back yard – let me read this to you now:

 

-- "When my son was a small boy playing with his buddies in the back yard, I overheard them talking one day -- and the conversation was, amusingly, one of those, "My dad can whip your dad' routines."

-- "I heard one boy proudly say, "My dad knows the mayor of our town!' -- Then I heard another boy say, “That's nothing! My dad knows the governor of our state!"

-- Wondering what was coming next in the program of bragging, I heard a wonderfully familiar voice -- that of my own little son – he turned to his friends and proclaimed, “That's nothing! My dad knows God!"

-- "I swiftly slipped away from my place of eavesdropping with tears running down my cheeks -- I dropped on my knees in my room and prayed earnestly and gratefully, “Oh, God, I pray that my boy will always be able to say, "My dad knows God."”

 

II.  What is Righteousness?

-- what does it mean to know God? – what is the biblical term for that?

-- we all know the terms salvation and justification – the means of grace which save us from our sins as we repent of our sins and turn to Jesus in faith and trust for the forgiveness of sins and for eternal life through Him – but salvation and justification aren’t the term that the Bible uses to describe knowing God

-- the term is actually “righteousness” – and it points to the relationship with God that is made possible through Jesus’ atoning death on the cross and His resurrection – it is this relationship that was restored through Jesus as we were reconciled with the Father through Him

-- that’s why we read in 2 Corinthians 5:18-19 about the ministry of reconciliation – that God was reconciling the world to Himself – to reconcile with someone means that you are restoring your relationship with them – that you are making two conflicting things compatible

– in this case, reconciling the person of God – the holiness of God – with mankind, who was filled with sin and controlled by a sin nature that conflicted with God’s holiness

-- the only way we could be reconciled with God was by Jesus taking our sinfulness away by putting it to death on the cross – and then replacing our sinfulness with something compatible with God’s nature – giving us His very righteousness – imputing to us His righteousness -- so that we would be able to be reconciled with the Father

-- that’s what we read in 2 Corinthians 5:21, “For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God”

 

 – this idea of reconciliation is why righteousness is sometimes defined as being in a right relationship with God – it is because we have been reconciled to Him – because our natures and our being have been transformed – through the righteousness of Christ that was imputed to us

-- the only way we can “know” God, as the little boy said his father knew God – the only way we can know God -- the only way we can be in a right relationship with Him – is through Jesus and His imputed righteousness

 

-- so, when we speak about or read in the Bible about the righteousness that comes from Christ – the righteousness of God – this is speaking about the attributes of His person – His holiness and purity and sinlessness – all of which were transferred to us through the cross as we believed in Jesus and put our faith in His atoning death and resurrection

-- we are holy in the sight of God as Jesus is holy – not because of anything that we have done – not because of any acts of holiness that we have done – but only because His holiness – His righteousness – has been imputed to us

 

-- but there is another aspect of righteousness that we read about in the Bible – this is the righteousness of mankind – being in right relationships with others

-- look up here at the cross – notice that the cross is made of two parts – there is a vertical part and a horizontal part – the vertical part of the cross reminds us that Jesus’ atoning death reconciled us with the Father – He made us righteous in the sight of God by imputing – by giving – His own righteousness to us

-- but there is also a horizontal aspect to the cross – which tells us that Jesus’ death on the cross did more for us than reconcile us to the Father and bring salvation and justification – His death changed who we are so that we might not only be reconciled with the Father, but we could be reconciled with mankind – with other people

-- in other words, the righteousness of Christ that was imputed to us changed us so that we could begin to love our neighbors as ourselves – to even love our enemies, as ourselves

-- that’s why we say that the commandments that Jesus said were the greatest commandments in Matthew 22:37-40 – that we are to “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” – and to “love your neighbor as yourself” – are now possible because His righteousness was given to us and we are filled with the power of His Holy Spirit

 

-- we are reconciled to both God and to man through the righteousness of Christ – and this has implications for us in our everyday lives

-- we sing in church the song, “They will know we are Christians by our love, by our love” – while we live in open hostility to those around us

-- we proclaim the command of Christ to love one another – to love our neighbor as ourselves – to even love our enemies – while we stab them with the blade of hatred and injustice

-- I saw a meme online this week that said, “Rather than seeing Christ put back in our nation, I’d like to see Christ put back in Christians” – and that says a lot about how we treat others – how we act towards those around us – the very ones that Christ called us to love as proof of our love of Him

-- so, this morning, I want us to take a moment to think about what it means to be righteous in this world today – to live in a right relationship – not only through reconciliation with the Father – but in a right relationship with those around us

-- to remember that we are called to be righteous vertically and horizontally – and to live holy and righteous lives in right relationships with both God and mankind

 

-- to try to get a biblical perspective on the importance of righteousness and right relationships with others, we’re going to look at a story here in the Book of Genesis that you rarely hear taught – it is hard story to hear – it is a hard story to understand and to apply – but I think it is timely for us to look at it this morning

-- in the middle of the story in Genesis about Joseph, we are given the story of Judah and Tamar – it seems like it is out of context – until you realize that God had Moses include it at this point to demonstrate that the unrighteousness of the Israelites was systemic – in all their dealings with others, they were unrighteous and unjust

-- we see that in their relationship with Joseph -- the sons of Israel were unrighteous to Joseph in the way they treated him and as they sold him into slavery in Egypt – and we see that in the actions of one of the leading sons of Israel, Judah -- Judah and his sons were unrighteous to Tamar – who represents those who are wronged by the very people that should be harbingers of holiness and righteousness in the world today and who seek justice and reconciliation from those who wronged them

-- so, let's look now at the story of Judah and Tamar and see what we can learn about righteousness from this passage


III.  Scripture Lesson (Genesis 38:1-30)

-- I have been trying to impress on you the importance of exegesis when reading and studying the Bible – of reading it in context and in light of how God intended His message to be heard by the original audience before applying it to ourselves

-- so, to follow this principle, let me give you just a bit of the background and context of Genesis 38 before we begin – as I said, this chapter occurs in the middle of the story of Joseph – Joseph was Israel’s favorite son – the firstborn son of his true love Rachel – Israel doted on Joseph and favored him above all his other sons, except for Joseph’s brother Benjamin – it was to Joseph that Israel gave the coat of many colors, which led Joseph’s brothers to be even more jealous and hateful to him

-- in Genesis 37, we read how the brothers’ hatred of Joseph comes to full force, as he checks up on them in the field – they attack Joseph and take his coat from him – and consider killing him – before they eventually sell him to a group of Midianite traders enroute to Egypt on the suggestion of Judah – thus begins Joseph’s life as a slave in Egypt

-- but the importance of this story was to show the unrighteous way the brothers acted towards Joseph and towards their father – following Judah’s lead, the brothers did not consider Joseph one of them, but unrightly and unjustly sold him into slavery

-- which brings us to Chapter 38 and the story of Judah and his relationship with Tamar – where once again, we see Judah treating others unrighteously instead of how God commanded

 

-- Judah was the fourth oldest son of Jacob or Israel -- but even though he was not the oldest, he still was the most influential leader of the 12 sons – we see that throughout the story of the sons of Israel here in Genesis

-- for instance, after Joseph had been sold into slavery in Egypt, a great famine occurred in the land of Canaan – and the Israelites were not able to grow enough food to support their family – Israel or Jacob, as we sometimes see him called in Genesis – sent all of his remaining sons to Egypt to buy grain to get them through the famine – all except Benjamin, his youngest and the full brother to Joseph, who Israel thought was dead

-- Judah took charge of this trip and it was Judah who led the negotiations with Egypt to buy grain for the family

-- and, of course, we know that it was through the family line of Judah that the Messiah was to come – so, even though Judah was not the oldest son, he was the leader and the most influential of all the brothers

 

-- look back at Genesis 38:1-5

 

Genesis 38:1 At that time, Judah left his brothers and went down to stay with a man of Adullam named Hirah. 2 There Judah met the daughter of a Canaanite man named Shua. He married her and made love to her; 3 she became pregnant and gave birth to a son, who was named Er. 4 She conceived again and gave birth to a son and named him Onan. 5 She gave birth to still another son and named him Shelah. It was at Kezib that she gave birth to him.

 

 

-- after the brothers sold Joseph into slavery, they continued to live their lives as normal – as though nothing out of the ordinary had happened – their actions towards Joseph were just reflective of the way they interacted with everyone around them

-- we read here that Judah left his brothers and went down to stay with a man of Adullam named Hiram – he ended up marrying a Canaanite woman named Shua – which we should point out was direct disobedience to the commands of God – God had called His people to be separate from the world – to live differently from those around them – to not follow their ways or their practices – and so they were not to marry outside the family to prevent contamination from the ungodly

-- Judah was not righteous towards Joseph – and now he shows his unrighteousness towards God by marrying a Canaanite woman – it was through her that Judah had three sons – Er, Onan, and Shelah

 

-- verse 6-10

 

Genesis 38:6 Judah got a wife for Er, his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. 7 But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death.

 

8 Then Judah said to Onan, “Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother. 10 What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death also.

 

 

-- okay, there’s a lot going on in these verses that we need to explain

 

-- first, I want to call your attention to how the sons of Judah are described here – both Er and Onan are described as being “wicked” – this is an apt description of who they were and how they lived and related to those around them

-- to be “wicked” in this context is to be estranged from God – it is to be living in sin and unrighteousness – it is to be doing things that God does not want you to do

-- all of us were wicked before we came to know Jesus as our Lord and Savior – it describes the nature of our heart and the result of the sin nature that lives in all of us – to be wicked is to be unrighteous and out of relationship with God

-- and even though God had called Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob to be His people – for them and their descendants to be His chosen race on earth – to be those who would be the image bearers of God and through whom the Savior of the world would come – it is important to note that the sons of the leader of the Israelites are both described here as wicked – unrighteous – sinful – not right with God

-- and we’ll see how their unrighteousness and wickedness affect their relationships in a moment

 

-- the second thing we see in these verses is a description of the enactment of what is known as a levirate marriage – this was a custom in which the brother of a deceased man is required or expected to marry his widowed sister-in-law, particularly if the deceased died without children

-- we see the practice of levirate marriages described in more detail in Deuteronomy 25:5-6 -- "If brothers are living together and one of them dies without a son, his widow must not marry outside the family. Her husband's brother shall take her and marry her and fulfill the duty of a brother-in-law to her. The first son she bears shall carry on the name of the dead brother so that his name will not be blotted out from Israel."

-- so, basically, God established this type of marriage arrangement to ensure the continuation of a family and to ensure that His chosen people remained faithful to Him and separate from the world, as He commanded

-- in Biblical times, the lineage of a family and the fortune of a family followed the eldest son – that means the land and the wealth and all that was given by God to that family was to be passed on from Father to the eldest son – so, it was important that his line continued, even if he passed before having a male heir

-- also, the practice of levirate marriage was a way of providing for widows – women had no rights and no wealth in this day – they were dependent on their family to provide for them – for this reason, if a widow had children, then her children were obligated by law to take care of her -- this was a way of making sure that both the family line continued and all members of the family were taken care of

-- we see this concept of levirate marriage as the core foundational truth in the story of Ruth from the Bible – where Ruth and Naomi struggled to survive until Boaz redeemed them according to the law of levirate marriage

 

-- so, the story of Judah’s unrighteousness begins when he marries his firstborn son, Er, to Tamar – a Gentile who lived in the land where Judah was

-- Er was so wicked that God put him to death before he had a child – that meant two things – first, Judah’s line of inheritance was broken, since his firstborn son did not have an heir – and second, it meant that Tamar had no one to protect her and provide for her after the death of Er

-- so, following the law of levirate marriage, Judah tells Onan, Er’s brother, to fulfill his duty by marrying Tamar and providing her with a son who would continue to represent the line of Judah and Er as Judah’s rightful heir

-- we are not told if Onan had another wife or other children, but since Er had passed without an heir, Onan now stood to receive the inheritance of Judah – but one thing stood in his way – the righteousness transmitted through the law of levirate marriage

-- Onan knew that if he fathered a child with Tamar, then that child would receive all the inheritance of the family -- in other words, Onan and any children he had through another marriage would not be eligible to receive the family fortune

-- so, out of greed, he refused to father a child for Er as the law demanded – and just like with Er, because of his wickedness – because of his greed and his unrighteousness towards both God and Tamar, the Lord put him to death, too

 

-- verse 11

 

Genesis 38:11 Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Live as a widow in your father’s household until my son Shelah grows up.” For he thought, “He may die too, just like his brothers.” So Tamar went to live in her father’s household.

 

-- at this point, Judah punted and chose to disobey God by not following the law of levirate marriage – after seeing two of his sons die after being married to Tamar, Judah decided he would not risk a third

-- and so he uses the excuse that Shelah was too young for marriage, and he tells Tamar to go back to her father’s household to live with him as a widow

-- not only does Judah refuse to follow the law of levirate marriage, he also refuses to take care of Tamar in his household as the law and as God demanded – instead, he sent her back to live with her father and to fend for herself

-- and Tamar had no choice but to return to her father’s household – even though the law and God’s righteousness demanded otherwise

 

-- verse 12-19

 

Genesis 38:12 After a long time Judah’s wife, the daughter of Shua, died. When Judah had recovered from his grief, he went up to Timnah, to the men who were shearing his sheep, and his friend Hirah the Adullamite went with him.

 

13 When Tamar was told, “Your father-in-law is on his way to Timnah to shear his sheep,” 14 she took off her widow’s clothes, covered herself with a veil to disguise herself, and then sat down at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah. For she saw that, though Shelah had now grown up, she had not been given to him as his wife.

 

15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16 Not realizing that she was his daughter-in-law, he went over to her by the roadside and said, “Come now, let me sleep with you.”

 

“And what will you give me to sleep with you?” she asked.

 

17 “I’ll send you a young goat from my flock,” he said.

 

“Will you give me something as a pledge until you send it?” she asked.

 

18 He said, “What pledge should I give you?”

 

“Your seal and its cord, and the staff in your hand,” she answered. So he gave them to her and slept with her, and she became pregnant by him. 19 After she left, she took off her veil and put on her widow’s clothes again.

 

-- by the time that Judah's wife died, Tamar had figured out that Judah was not dealing with her honestly – he was as unrighteous and wicked as his two sons had been towards her, so she took matters into her own hand -- she was going to make sure the law of God was followed even if she had to do it deceitfully

-- Tamar dressed as a prostitute and seduced Judah and conceived a child with him

 

-- now here’s where exegesis comes into play – we read this story and see it as an act of sexual immorality – both by Judah and by Tamar, who pretended to be a prostitute to seduce him

-- but the purpose of this story’s inclusion in the Bible and the way it would have been understood and heard by the Bible’s original audience was a story of a family’s unrighteousness and wickedness towards a vulnerable woman -- they would have understood the story to be primarily about economics and honor, and the importance of following the righteousness of God’s holy commands

-- in this case, Tamar rightly did what she had to do in order to fulfill the law and the righteousness of God since Judah and his sons acted wickedly and unjustly towards her

-- as Skye Jethani put it, “because three wicked men had broken their promises and the socially acceptable system for her protection had failed her, Tamar believed her only choice was to break the rules. Out of desperation, she concealed her identity, pretended to be a prostitute, and conceived a child with her father-in-law, Judah”

-- it’s important for us to see this story in that light and not to read it as a story of sexual immorality – it is a story of someone seeking justice because of a systemic unrighteousness perpetrated against them

 

-- skip down to verse 24-26

 

Genesis 38:24 About three months later Judah was told, “Your daughter-in-law Tamar is guilty of prostitution, and as a result she is now pregnant.”

 

Judah said, “Bring her out and have her burned to death!”

 

25 As she was being brought out, she sent a message to her father-in-law. “I am pregnant by the man who owns these,” she said. And she added, “See if you recognize whose seal and cord and staff these are.”

 

26 Judah recognized them and said, “She is more righteous than I, since I wouldn’t give her to my son Shelah.” And he did not sleep with her again.

 

-- when Judah found out Tamar was pregnant, he was incensed -- he demanded that she be brought before him and be killed for sexual immorality – for committing adultery

-- but when Tamar presented Judah’s seal and cord and staff in her defense of her actions, Judah realized the truth of the matter – he was the father of Tamar’s children – and that meant that when he had been unrighteous and wicked towards her in the sight of God, that she had acted in a way to force his righteousness, even when he didn’t want to do it

-- the law of God was fulfilled, even though Judah himself had tried to keep it from happening

 

-- the key verse in this entire story about Judah and Tamar is verse 26 -- "She is more righteous than I"

-- and here we are back at the idea of righteousness – in this case, the idea of righteousness is referring to the horizontal understanding of conducting ourselves in right relationships with other people

-- the Hebrew word used here is "Tsedequah" -- it does not mean holy -- or sinless -- or pure -- the word Tsedequah refers to having right relationships with other people – it means that we are to be in right relationships with others and to fulfill the demands of any covenantal relationships that we are in, such as familial or marriage covenants

 -- to put this in simple terms, this means that we act in a right way to other people – especially to people in our family or that we are married to – that we act righteously and holy towards them – we do what we are supposed to do and we don’t act with hatred or injustice or persecution to others

 

-- when King Saul was seeking to kill David, there was an occasion when David had the opportunity to kill Saul when he took a bathroom break in a cave – but David refused to do that because Saul had been called and anointed by God to be king of Israel at that time – and for David to harm Saul would be an unrighteous act

-- when Saul realizes that David had acted righteously towards him, even when he was being persecuted by Saul, he proclaims to David in 1 Samuel 24:17, "You are more righteous than I"

-- when someone says that – when someone does that in the Bible – what they mean is that in this relationship between them and the other person, that person was loyal and faithful to the requirements of justice and honor – they did what was necessary to keep the relationship intact and to follow the royal law of God to love others as ourselves – not allowing enmity or injustice to come between them

 

-- in the case of Judah and Tamar, Tamar did what she had to do to keep the line of Judah -- the lineage of Er – intact

-- when justice was denied her – when Judah and his sons acted wickedly towards her -- she became a prostitute to Judah in order to ensure the requirements of righteousness in the sight of God were met – and when confronted with the truth, Judah recognized his sin

-- to quote Skye Jethani again, “It’s important to notice that Judah does not confess his sin of sleeping with a prostitute, but rather his far greater sin of not keeping his promise to provide for Tamar’s welfare. He understood that Tamar’s actions came from weakness and desperation, but he was guilty of abusing his power and neglecting his duty. Therefore, he had the far greater sin.”

 

-- “Tamar represents a woman whom the system failed. She represents those who suffer because men in power misuse their authority and neglect those in need.

-- “And through her tenacity and willingness to embrace shame and ridicule, she exposed their wickedness.

-- Tamar became sin to reveal the sin of the unrighteousness of Judah and to foreshadow what the New Testament would declare about Jesus in 2 Corinthians 5:21, that we mentioned earlier -- “God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God”1

-- one thing that we need to remember in this story of Judah and Tamar is that Perez, the son of their illicit relationship, was a direct ancestor of Jesus – and in Matthew, we read about Tamar in Jesus’ genealogy

-- why does Matthew include a woman – especially a Gentile woman – in the genealogy of Jesus? – it’s because her story tells part of Jesus’ story.

-- just as Judah and his sons were to take care of her and be righteous in their dealings with her, the leaders of Israel were responsible to care for the people and prepare for the Messiah.

-- “Instead, they abused their power, neglected the people, and rejected Jesus. When the established systems of godly authority failed, like [in the story of] Tamar, Jesus welcomed humiliation and ridicule by allowing himself to die on a cross. In doing so, he exposed the true evil and injustice of the world”1 and did what was necessary to restore righteousness in the world – both vertically and horizontally – by reconciling man with God and man with each other

 

IV.  Closing

            -- so, what does all this mean to us?

-- in Zephaniah 2:3 we read, “Seek the LORD, all you humble of the land, you who do what he commands. Seek righteousness, seek humility"

-- and in Romans 1:17 it says, "The righteous will live by faith"

 

-- the story of the cross is the story of righteousness – through the cross, Jesus reconciled us to the Father and imputed His righteousness to us – making us holy and pure in the eyes of God – and breaking the power of sin in our lives

-- and He also made it possible for us to be reconciled to all those around us – to be empowered through His Spirit to love our neighbors and our enemies as ourselves – to live in a right relationship with them – doing what is right and holy in the eyes of God to others

 

            -- Tamar was more righteous than Judah in their relationship, because she honored and maintained the relationship, as God’s holy law commanded – granted, she didn't do it in the most moral way -- but her circumstances and the systemic wickedness that Judah and his sons had perpetrated against her left her with no other avenue of recourse – she did what she had to do to fulfill the law of righteousness

-- and because of her actions, God made Tamar and Judah's son Perez a direct ancestor of Jesus Christ

 

            -- I have been a Christian for a long time now – and I have tried to serve God and follow His word to the best of my ability – I have tried to live righteous and holy towards God in my life, even though I fail all the time – as all of us do

            -- but one thing that God has shown me in the last several years is the importance of not only being in a right relationship with Him, but in a right relationship with those around me – He showed me that Christianity is not so much about doing what is right, but living in a right relationship to Him and to others

            -- that was the failure of the desert fathers – they thought they could achieve true holiness and righteousness by isolating themselves in the desert alone and in monasteries – but they realized they had missed the most important part

            -- Christ came to reconcile us with both God and with man – and we cannot be a Christian apart from others – we cannot love our neighbor as ourselves if we are not near our neighbors – we cannot fully be who God called us to be unless we are living in righteousness with both God and His people

            -- and we are failing to live as He intended – we see that in the way the world thinks of us – we see that in the way the world describes us – when they look at Christians, they are not seeing love – they are not seeing people seeking righteous relationships – they are seeing hatred and persecution and injustice

 

            -- the story of Judah and Tamar is intended to point us to Christ and the cross – to show us a better way – the way of Jesus – the way of righteousness – the way of love

            -- so, as we close this morning, let us take a moment and consider how we act towards those around us – not only our family and our friends – but the strangers and the acquaintances and the enemies in our lives – to those who may vote differently than us or belong to a different political party

            -- are they seeing the love of God through us? – do we love them and show them the righteousness of God through how we treat them – through how we act towards them?

            -- consider your social media posts – consider your words and your actions – are you loving your neighbor and your enemy as God intends? – are you righteous in the way you deal with them?

            -- search your heart – open yourself before God – and if you need to repent of the way you have acted or the words or the thoughts you have about others – then take a moment now to get right with God and right with those around us

            -- with that, let us pray

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1 Skye Jethani – With God Daily Devotional, 26 October 2026, Tamar: Exposing the System's Failure

Sunday, October 25, 2026

SERMON: FINDING YOUR WAY

 


Naylor Community Christian Church

Naylor, Georgia

 

I.  Introduction

            -- turn in Bibles to Proverbs 3:5-6

 

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart

    and lean not on your own understanding;

6 in all your ways submit to him,

    and he will make your paths straight.

 

-- several years ago, I came up with the idea that I wanted to hike the entire Appalachian Trail – 2,200 miles – stretching from Georgia to Maine – I had hiked most of the trail in Georgia and North Carolina when I was in school, but I guess I was in the middle of a midlife crisis – and I decided I wanted to start over and hike the whole thing from Georgia to Maine – just not all at one time, but by taking sections of it over time

-- I recruited a friend and his kids – and together we planned our first section – from Woody Gap to Amicalola Falls – about 30 miles – we figured it would take us three days and be a good warm up for our plans to hike the whole thing

-- well, long story short – even though I had prepared and trained for the hike, I didn’t consider the fact that I had sleep apnea and had to use a CPAP machine – I thought that I would be okay without the machine for three days – but I wasn’t

-- the elevation and the exertion of hiking the trail caused my oxygen levels to plummet, and I couldn’t move – I just gave out – and in defeat, I called Kim to come get me at a pickup location in the middle between Woody Gap and Amicalola Falls

-- in my preparations, I had bought a guide book for the trail – and it gave precise instructions on how to get to the various road crossings and pickup points – and it had put in bold print for this location, “Do not use your GPS” – it said that the GPS would try to route you on the shortest route, which was a precarious trail really not passable by vehicle – that instead, you should go up on a paved road north to the next town, take another paved road south, and then you would find the dirt road that led to the pickup point

-- when I called Kim, I told her all this – but somehow, the importance of this point didn’t come across to her – so, as my faithful and dutiful wife, she set out to rescue me – she plotted in the location on the GPS and took off to get me – following the trail that the guide book said was impassable

-- and Kim quickly learned why – it was a narrow trail that could barely accommodate a vehicle – it had sharp drops and hairpin turns – and there was no way to turn around once you got started – you were committed at that point

-- she persevered and finally came out at the pickup location – she ran across a group of Army Rangers in Humvees and asked them if they had seen me – and they asked her how she had gotten there – when she told them, they said, “We don’t go that way”

-- thankfully, we all found each other and made our way back out safely to civilization – with many lessons learned about following directions, trusting God, and knowing He will make our paths straight – something this passage in Proverbs speaks of

 

II.  Proverbs versus Promises

-- I was reminded of this passage in a devotional I am currently reading – this passage – Proverbs 3:5-6 – is one of the most familiar passages in all the Bible – we see it on photos – on t-shirts – on bumper stickers – it’s one of the passages that many people have memorized – and for good reason – because there are some great truths in these two little verses

 

-- before we look at these verses in more detail, let me share some thoughts about this book in general

-- the book of Proverbs can be confusing to a lot of people, because we want to take all these little wise sayings to heart and believe that since they are in the Bible, they are always 100% accurate – but that’s not true – and when proverbs do not come to pass as we expect them to, it can cause doubts about our faith and about God

-- many parents have been left doubting God because their children continued to stray from God in their lives and do things they shouldn’t, despite what Proverbs 22:7 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it"

-- proverbs, by definition, are not always promises and will not always come to pass

 

-- that’s why knowing how the Bible was written and why the Bible was written are important to our faith

-- The book of Proverbs is given to us as a collection of wise sayings, advice, instructions, and warnings that circulated among the people of Israel – it opens with the structure of a life manual from a father to a son telling him to follow these sayings for the benefit of his life

-- these proverbs are encouragements to live wisely and in a way that obeys and honors God – but like I said, we need to be aware that these sayings and the advice in the Book of Proverbs are not always promises that will come true 100% of the time

-- A proverb is by definition a saying that accurately represents what is usually true, not what is true without exception. – proverbs are guidance – they are principles -- they are sayings that reflect how life usually works out, but not guarantees of a certain outcome

 

-- for instance, we all know the old saying, “An apple a day keeps the doctor away” – but we also know this is not true – there is wisdom there, for if we eat an apple a day – if we choose to eat good and healthy food instead of food that is bad for us, it will generally help us to be healthier

– but no one believes that if we simply eat an apple a day that we will never get sick – that’s not the way it works – this proverb about eating an apple a day is a general principle – if you follow it, more often than not, good things will happen – you will generally be healthy, but not always – and that is the case with most of the proverbs in this book of the Bible

-- some of the proverbs, though, are promises – they are truths that are promised elsewhere in Scripture and we know that we can rely on them being absolutely true because God has promised this in His word

-- so, before you take any of the proverbs in this book as absolute truth, you must interpret them within the context of the whole book before you try to apply them to your life – you have to determine if a proverb is just a wise saying or whether it is a promise from God

– those proverbs that are promises are proverbs we can stand on – like the passage that we are looking at this this morning

-- the other proverbs provide guidance and wisdom, but understand that they are not absolute truths unless God states so elsewhere in His word

            -- this is where knowing and reading and studying your Bible – having a good working knowledge of what the Word of God says -- truly helps you in your walk with Christ and in your daily life

            -- so, with that introduction, let us turn now to Proverbs 3:5-6 – and let’s look at this proverb – which is also a promise from God for us

 

III.  Scripture Lesson (Proverbs 3:5-6)

            -- let’s read this passage again and then we’ll start looking at it in more detail

 

 

Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart

    and lean not on your own understanding;

6 in all your ways submit to him,

    and he will make your paths straight.

 

            -- if you are keeping notes on the messages, there are five key words in these two verses that we need to pay attention to:  Trust – Lean – Understanding – Acknowledge – Direct

            -- we’ll go over all of these separately as we look at these two verses in detail

 

            -- first, trust

            -- verse 5 says that we are to “trust in the Lord with all our heart” – trust is the key word there because all relationships in our lives are governed and ruled by trust – that’s true whether we’re talking about our relationship with the Government – with the economy – with the banks and the stores – with transportation, especially in driving – and in our relationships with other people

            -- none of these relationships could exist without trust

            -- for instance, when I pull up to a traffic light, I am trusting that the other drivers at that intersection are going to follow the rules – if the light is green, I am trusting that the drivers to my left and right are going to stop and not hit me – if the light is red, they are trusting that I will do the same

            -- the same is true with everything in our lives – we trust the government is going to use our tax dollars to protect us and serve us and meet the needs of our community – we trust the bank is going to protect our money and that we will be able to get money when we need it – and in relationships with others, we trust that they are going to act with our best interests at heart – if we are married, we trust our spouse with our very lives and they trust us with theirs

            -- trust is the bedrock of all relationships and life – and this especially is true when it comes to our spiritual life – we have to put our faith and trust in God and God alone

            -- that’s why Solomon instructs us here to trust in the Lord with all our hearts – this means that we are putting our eternal lives – our spiritual lives – our very souls – in the hands of God and are trusting that He will take care of us to infinity and beyond

            -- this means that in all aspects of our life – spiritual, physical, and emotional – we commit ourselves to Him in faith and trust that He will always protect us and take care of us

 

– this is what He promises in Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – and in Romans 8:28, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”

-- God tells us that we can trust Him because He is trustworthy – and our act of faith is to put our trust in Him with all our hearts, as Solomon advises here

 

            -- an important consideration here concerning this promise from God is Solomon’s instruction to trust in the Lord with all our hearts – trusting in Him with all our hearts means that we are completely and totally trusting God with our lives and our eternity – this means our trust is not divided – we don’t have divided loyalties – nor divided minds – we’re not “double-minded” as James puts it

            -- instead, we are completely and totally putting our trust in God and Him alone – we are singular in our focus and in devotion

            -- this is the foundational requirement of the promise – and it leads right into the next key word – Lean

            -- Solomon says here that we are not to lean on our own understanding – what does it mean to lean on our own understanding?

            -- to lean means that we are resting on something – we are relying on something – for partial support – think about someone who uses a cane or a walker because they are unsteady in their gait – they are leaning – they are trusting – on that device to make them steady

            -- the opposite of trusting in the Lord with all our heart is to lean on our own understanding – to put our trust or our faith in something else – whether that is the wisdom of the world or the wisdom of our own heart and understanding

           

            -- the Bible tells us that we are to lean only on the everlasting arms – to lean only on God – to put our faith and trust in Him to support us and not on anything else

            -- I assume you are all aware that we are in the midst of an election cycle – for months, we have been inundated with messages from politicians asking us to trust them – to lean on them – to depend on them for our future

            -- understand this – a politician might be able to help in the short-term, but you can’t lean on any politician or any human long-term – they will always let you down – they will always fail to do what they promise

            -- the only person that we can lean on with complete and total trust and faith and confidence in Jesus Himself – for He will never leave us or forsake us – He will never let us down – in Him, all the promises of God are Yes and Amen

            -- as Ray Pritchard puts it, you lean on something when you are not strong enough to stand alone – and the only One we should ever lean on is the Lord Jesus Christ – for He is the only One able to bear us up in all things        

 

-- the third key word in this passage is Understanding – and Solomon advises here that we not lean on our own understanding

            -- the reason for that is because we are human -- our understanding and our intellect and our knowledge are limited and biased – we see life through lenses with cultural and social biases – we look at life and try to make it bend to what we want – and that will never work

-- “Understanding” refers to the mental processes by which you analyze a problem, break it down into its smaller parts, and then make a decision about what you are going to do

-- for example, when you wake up in the morning and make a list of all the things you need to do that day, you are using your understanding to prioritize your life – to make sense of it – to plan it out

-- God has given us the ability to do this – but what happens when we try to do things outside of God’s will? – what happens when we try to live life in our own strength and in our own wisdom? – it doesn’t work

-- ever heard the cliché, “Want to make God laugh? – Tell Him your plans” – that’s because our plans are made with human wisdom and human understanding – we emphasize doing what we want to do – what we think will make us happy – but when we go outside the bounds of what God’s word says, our plans always fail to make us happy or satisfied or successful

-- that’s why we can’t lean on our own understanding – on our own wisdom – to get by in life – we need God’s wisdom to lead us and guide us down the path He wants us to follow – we need to trust in Him with our whole hearts and not lean on our own understanding

 

-- look back at verse 6

 

 

Proverbs 3:6 in all your ways submit to him,

    and he will make your paths straight.

 

            -- here we see the next key word – Acknowledge or Submit, as the NIV phrases it

            -- what does it mean to acknowledge or submit to the Lord? – in the Hebrew, the word that is translated as “acknowledge” is a command – it means to bend your knee – to submit to someone – to defer to their leadership and wisdom in all our ways

 

-- when I worked at Fort Benning, we became very familiar with the base because we were out in the woods and on the trails every day from sunup until closing time – you could drop us anywhere on that base, and we could tell you where we were and how to get back to the office

-- one day, we ran across a group of soldiers doing land navigation – they had a compass and a map and they flagged us down and said, “Where are we?”

-- we showed them on the map where we were and then they started arguing with us – they said, “You don’t know what you’re talking about – we’re not there – we can’t be there – we have to be over here”

-- finally, the biologist I was with said, “We’re not the ones who are lost – you are” – and when they refused to listen, we got in the truck and drove off, leaving them just as lost as they were at the beginning

-- that’s what happens when we lean on our own understanding – we think we have it all figured out – we think we know what we are doing – we think we know where we are in life – but we’re really lost – and the only way to find ourselves is to acknowledge and submit to the One who knows the way

-- this means putting our faith and trust in God – acknowledging Him as Lord of our life – submitting to Him in every way

-- this means that we listen to Him and lean on Him and trust in Him and not ourselves – this means putting God first and putting His priorities above our own

 

            -- when we do all of this – when we trust with all our hearts – when we lean not on our own understanding or on our own wisdom but lean on God’s understanding – when we acknowledge Him and submit to His Lordship over our lives – then Solomon tells us that God will direct our paths

            -- there is a path that God wants us to follow – and if we trust – lean – understand – and acknowledge Him – then He will direct us down the path He wants us to follow in our lives today – that’s why “Direct” is our final key word in this passage

 

            -- let me ask you this? – who is directing your path right now? – who do you look to for directions in life? –is it God? – is it the world? – is it yourself?

            -- we’re having a problem with Amazon deliveries right now – ever since they opened up the Amazon delivery center here in Valdosta, we have had a problem with the drivers finding our house

            -- whatever GPS system they are using, it keeps trying to route them down this non-existent road through a trailer park – and invariably, we get calls from them saying, “We’re here, but we don’t see your house” – and we say, “You’re not here, because if you were, you would see our house”

            -- I sent a message to Google Maps and had them correct the GPS routing to our house to show this road as blocked, but it hasn’t helped – these drivers still insist on following their own wisdom and their specific GPS directions and they keep going down the wrong path

 

            -- that’s what Solomon is advising against here in these verses – he tells us that if we will trust in the Lord with all our hearts – if we will quit leaning on our own wisdom and human knowledge – if we will quit trusting the world and what it says – if we will submit to God and trust that He has our best interests in mind – then He will direct our paths and make our paths straight

            -- there is a right way to go in life – and the trail that we are to follow as Christians begins on the Via Dolorosa – the way of the cross – the path that Jesus took from Pilate’s judgment seat to Calvary

            -- we follow the path to the cross to find salvation – and then we follow Christ as He leads us into sanctification – as He guides us down paths of righteousness for His namesake – as He shows us the way we should go that will lead us to becoming more and more like Him

            -- this is the path – this is the way – and God promises to lead us on this path – to direct our steps – and to make straight our way – if we trust in Him and acknowledge Him with our whole hearts

 

IV. CLOSING

-- Mark Twain wrote, “What a wee little part of a person’s life are his acts and his words! His real life is led in his head, and is known to none but himself. All day long, the mill of his brain is grinding, and his thoughts, not those other things, are his history.”4

            -- by pointing out that a person is led by their thoughts – that their actions follow their understanding – Twain was reiterating the truth that Scripture teaches

            -- both here and in the Book of James, we are told that our actions follow our desires and our thoughts – when we lean on our own understanding – when we try to choose our own path based on human wisdom and understanding – we will invariably fail and find ourselves lost

            -- the proper course to take is to trust in the Lord with all our hearts – to lean on Him and to acknowledge Him – to submit to His Lordship in our lives – and to follow the path that He directs

            -- that is the way of life – and as this proverb promises, if we do that, our lives will be the best we can hope for

 

            -- over the years, one of the most frequent questions that I am asked is, “How can I know the will of God? – How can I know what God wants me to do?”

            -- in these verses, Solomon gives us the answer to those questions

            -- when we decide to put our trust in the Lord

– when we decide to not trust in our own understanding but give attention and priority to God’s revealed word

– when we decide to acknowledge and honor God and submit to Him in all that we do

– God’s word promises that God will direct our paths – He will show us the way He wants us to go – He will give us direction and reveal to us His will and His way

-- that’s how you know and follow the will of God

 

-- as Dave Guzik puts it, “When we do those things, we can trust that God will direct our paths. We can go forward in peace, believing that through His word, through the leading of the Holy Spirit, through the counsel of others, through godly common sense, and through life circumstances, God will direct our paths. We will walk along our way of life and come to see that we have been on the path God intended all along.”2

 

            -- so, as we close now in prayer, I want us to take a moment to consider where we are in our lives today – are we following God? – or are we lost somewhere in a plan of our own making?

            -- shortly after we moved back to Georgia, Kim was trying to find her way around and ended up on a country back road – she thought if she kept driving, it would eventually get her to where she wanted to go – but when she passed a little country church, she saw the sign out front that read, “God allows U-Turns”

            -- she took that as a word from the Lord – turned around – and made her way back to the right path

            -- that is the whole message for us today – if we are on the wrong path this morning – if we have taken a wrong turn and find ourselves going somewhere we shouldn’t – then remember that God allows U-turns

            -- all it takes is trusting in Him with all our hearts – leaning not on our own understanding – acknowledging and submitting to Him in all our ways – and knowing that He will then direct our path and lead us to where we need to be

            -- so, let me encourage you to respond to God’s word as you feel led – and if you need to make a U-turn this morning, please do so as we close

            -- with that, let us pray

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1 Dr. Constable’s Expository Notes, Proverbs 3: https://www.studylight.org/commentaries/eng/dcc/proverbs-3.html

2 Dave Guzik, https://enduringword.com/bible-commentary/proverbs-3/

3 Ray Pritchard, https://www.preceptaustin.org/proverbs-ray_pritchard#3

4 (Reader’s Digest [1/93], p. 155).